Back on  Top

Back on Top

by Ginger Emas

Kim Sisto Robinson: The day I got married, I was delighted with the possibilities a lifetime partner to honor and cherish, and have babies, and power tools But the main thing that I, personally, was secretly thrilled with was that I would NEVER, EVER have to go on a date again. Especially a first date. Well, I was wrong. Back on Top: Fearless Dating After Divorce by Ginger Emas.

The marvelous thing about finally getting back on top is that we, the readers, get to go along for the exhilarating ride, too test the waters, laugh our asses off, literally, mine fell on the carpet, and lastly, experience Ginger Emas's adventures of self discovery. We get to sit with her through 6 minute speed dating (yep, only 6 minutes), online dating (ain't what it used to be), and my favorite, "lock and key" parties. Nope. It's not what you think so get your mind out of the gutter. It's not like that 70's film where Sigourney Weaver and Kevin Kline put their car keys in a bowl and go home with the man/woman who pick up their key. Tisk, tisk, you naughty, naughty girls. Here's how it really works: Every woman gets a padlock. Every man gets a key. Your goal is to match the right key with the right padlock. Every time you unlock you get a ticket that enters you into the drawing to win great prizes from our party sponsors. Prizes such as cold hard cash, hotel stays, dinners, tickets to popular things to do and more. After every unlock you get another lock or key so you can get back into the fray and meet more people! Um, I wonder if married chicks can participate.

Regardless, Back on Top is a book for everyone, not just divorcees. Every reader will be able to take a little bit of this and a little bit of that. For example, did you realize that our Manfiles change with age? In 1987, Ginger wrote her first Manfile: honesty, sense of humor, intelligent, musician, pony-tail, and with earring. When my husband showed up in my life, he was indeed a ponytailed, one earringed musician who was brilliant and funny. Looking back, I wish I had put in some other stuff, but I was in my twenties, who knew you had to ask for sex? I shaded this segment in bright yellow because my own Manfile was similar in my twenties, the only difference being I added it would be nice if he looked like George Michael. Seriously, none of us knew he was gay back then; we just thought he was hotter than hell. And I did end up with a Brit.

Anyway, I read Back on Top in a few hours, sitting on my sofa snickering and smiling to myself, and when I got to the section about Ginger dating the always tardy Pastor, I called my sister in disgust and shrilled "Can you believe this creep actually expected her to pay half the bill when he asked her out in the first place? Stupid Jerk!"

Ginger Emas allows the reader to belly laugh at her expense. She gives us advice about what to wear for a first date (nothing too low cut, but bring out your best assets), dating Exes and not yet Exes, juggling men (must be a rough life), being a Cougar (it;s not just for Demi), and finding our inner Goddess. I appreciated this book. I love that Ginger can take a difficult situation and utilize her knowledge and experience in a constructive, amusing, ass kicking way. I snorted my diet coke from my nose when she so gingerly suggests this: "If someone really wants to date me, he probably should keep that appointment with my therapist --- the two of them can spend some time delving into the question of am I right for him?"

Back on Top tickled my funny bone to the core. Oh, and one last thing before I submit this....Ginger has a word of advice that is woven beautifully and sporadically throughout her 229 page gem, "Don't do anything stupid!" I think you are FAB, Ginger! :)
Rating: *****

Brenda Horne: This is a hilarious, sassy, and highly relevant book for every woman on "how to" and "how not to" re-enter the dating game after divorce. This Atlanta author writes like she's your best friend - and don't we all need one of those after a divorce? Many of the old ones may not stick around for very long after the fallout. If they're married, at the very least they'll be holding more tightly onto their husbands arms whenever you're around.

I've never read a more practical book - especially since I just started this process after a 25-year-marriage ended. Her life has been crazy, funny, rewarding, silly, chaotic, and thoroughly understandable by any of us who have gone through this at least once. You'll wish you could invite her over for a glass of wine - she'd definitely make you laugh until you cry. Here's to you, Ginger!
Rating: *****

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